Dating a guy four years younger
Before I began dating Kevin, a woman I worked with in children's ministry frequently asked me about him, seeing potential from the start. " "Ah," she said lightly, waving her hand, "My husband's four years older, but he acts younger.Age is just a number." As Kevin and I broached some tough topics in conversation (at the advice of wise counsel), something occurred to me.
(A 37 year old dating a 25 year old is different from a 30 year old dating an 18 year old.) I often tell people that Kevin and I met at the perfect time." While it's fairly common for a woman to marry an older man, the reverse isn't as much of a social norm. Travis and Leah, who have been married close to 20 years, met while attending the same six-week missions organization training."Telling our story never gets old," Leah says, smiling.Even some 30-something guys I knew didn't seem ready.But as I observed how he interacted with people at church and did his job, my fears were alleviated.), then he decided to pray specifically for peace moving forward.
"My biggest question was, 'Why was she still single? "But that worry didn't stop me from getting to know her.
"It feels like it wasn't that long ago." When Leah, a national of Singapore, first got to know Travis, who was 10 years her junior, she was attracted to him, but "I tried to tell myself it wouldn't work because of the age difference.
I fought those affections like crazy." But as an undeniable connection formed, Leah finally made a bold request: "I told the Lord, unless I hear Travis say, 'The Lord has laid it on my heart that you are to be my wife,' I will not move forward." The night before the two gave a group presentation together, they met to pray.
"After we prayed, Travis took up the courage and said those exact words! "That's what I had been waiting for." Although many of the questions I receive are from women who are considering whether or not to date a younger man, many of the same principles apply to the decision-making process regardless of who's older.
(For the sake of this article, we'll define an age difference as five years or more.) Here are four things to consider: 1. Leah says one of her biggest concerns when considering a man 10 years younger was whether he had the maturity to understand her needs and take care of her.
The problems we were talking through — for example, what if someday our sex drives didn't match up? We were just going to be more proactive about them.